How To Legally Establish A Parent Child Relationship  

Posted by Jaz Boyce





So, fellas, aren't you tired of all the negative comments and perspectives us men are presented with when it comes to parenting? Aren't you tired of being called a deadbeat? Tired of your only position in your child's life being financial? Aren't you tired of being blackmailed by your so-called baby mommas, forced to give in to her selfish demands in order to see your children? Aren't you tired of not having a say-so in the matters regarding your children?

You do realize that all of these things we fathers are forced to suffer are not legal and definitely not necessary. I wonder if you women ever thought that your actions may be the reasons why most so-called dead beat dads aren't in the picture. Sure, there is no excuse for a man not taking the responsibility of parenting his children, but if the shoe was on the other foot, would you women honestly be able to suffer the verbal and emotional degradation that you press down upon your children's fathers?

There are three ways a man can legally become a father to his children. First, being legally married when the child is born. Second, signing a Declaration of Paternity. Third, legally establishing a father-child relationship through the courts.


The first method is self explanatory. The second method is the worst method. Nothing personal, but i don't care how much you love that woman and how much you trust that woman, you can never be 100% sure the baby is yours. I would never recommend that route. Also, it states in most states Declaration of Paternity that: 


"By signing this declaration, you are, by your choice, giving up all of the following rights, as they relate to paternity establishment: the right to a trial in court to decide the issue of paternity; to notice of any hearing on the issue of paternity; to have the opportunity to present your case to the court, including the right to present and cross examine witnesses; to have an attorney represent you; or to have an attorney appointed to represent you if you cannot afford one in an action filed by the local Child Support Agency." 


Don't ever sign any declarations of paternity!


Sample Declaration of Paternity


The last method is the best and most effective method. Legally establishing a father-child relationship through the court. This method takes some time and some footwork. But it produces the results we all look for. 




The first step in establishing a father-child relationship through the court is to establish paternity. The most effective way to establish paternity is DNA testing. Don't let these women talk you out of DNA. No, it does not mean that you're denying your child, it doesn't mean that you think the child isn't yours, or none of the nonsense women try to use to talk us out of getting DNA. It only proves paternity beyond a doubt. When you aren't married to a woman there is always the possibility of infidelity. If men can cheat, women can too.

Don't ever deal directly with Child Support Enforcement Agency. They don't have your best interest in mind. They only want to get child support. You have to bypass the CSEA. The way to do that is to get an affidavit from the courts requesting a legal bypass of the CSEA. It also has to be signed by the CSEA. This affidavit, is part of a number of affidavits necessary for establishing a father child relationship. The first of which is a Complaint to Establish Father-Child Relationship. There are other forms necessary, they vary depending on state, including  the Health Insurance Disclosure Affidavit.


These are the very important steps necessary to establishing a father-child relationship. But this is only the beginning. 



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Fathers For Real  

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Fellas, these women have us shook. We hear babies, we get to running in the other direction. How are we going to be scared of the most sacred and beautiful part of our existence? There is no greater phenomena in this universe than the relationship that exist between a father and his children. Its crazy that our women have us scared to start a family, scared to have babies.

For decades woman have been using babies as tools and weapons to gain authority and control over the fathers. In their eyes, since they physically gave birth to a live fetus, the alleged sperm donor doesn't have any rights. They lead us to believe that the only rights we have are the rights they give us. Then let us not comply, they smear our name and credibility in the mud.

Women love to do that. They suffer from the "Your Daddy Ain't Shit Syndrome." They lead everyone to believe that your just a deadbeat and you don't do anything for your children. They put roadblocks in the way of you fathering your children then work the system to get you for child support.

During my divorce, my ex-wife asked me, "What makes you think you deserve to be a father?" What kind of question is that? What makes you think you deserve to be a mother? This is the mentality of a lot of women.

Parenting is not a privilege, it's a responsibility. Both parents are equally responsible for parenting these children. These women think that us fathers are only responsible for the financial obligations, not the decision making or anything like that.
If you are married and you are the breadwinner, it's okay for you to be responsible for the financial obligations that occur with the child. But when you live separate from your child's mother and you are maintaining a home for you and your child, just like she is, you both should be equally responsible for the financial responsibilities.

Women don't think like that. They feel like their home is the child's home, not yours. Since they're your baby's mommas, you should be making sure they are financially stable regardless of your own financial status. Send the child to you looking like a bum then say, "If he want him to look fresh he should buy him some new clothes." What happened to the new clothes I sent him home in?

Women love to say you don't do anything for your child when you're not handing everything to them. I keep a supply of diapers and wipes at my house for my two children. I keep onesies, socks and outfits. My children's mothers don't have to bring anything. But they'll never acknowledge or respect that.

Of course this isn't all women, and this isn't all men. There are plenty of women who respect their children's fathers. Just like there are men who neglect their children and are actually deadbeats. Hopefully this will help both mothers and fathers become the best parents they can be.

I know my rights though. I know that I have rights most importantly. I, like many other men, am too good of a father to be exploited by my children's mothers. I take care of my children the way I'm supposed to, not the way they think I should.

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